I've only gone and bought the flippin' thing!!!
So, the last update i gave was just after Candy Anthony - and christ alive i love that dress. I had actually got to the point where i had convinced myself it was entirely reasonable to spend the full £3k on it, and that it would be the most wonderful dress experience ever. and to be honest, i think it would have been a dream come true to wear it...
However, things changed somewhat.
You know, in films, when women go en-masse to the bridal shop and they're festooned with fizzy wine and everyone tries on hideous dresses until miraculously you try on one dress, everyone cries, and you look inexplicably like you're bathed in a quasi-religious light... That kind of happened. I didn't even particularly want it to, it wasn't my fault!
Was off to Brighton for the weekend to see best-mate-local, and thought that it would be fun to have the afore-mentioned dress shop experience. Free booze is never a bad thing, and we might have had a laugh at the same time. It also served another 2 purposes which was to try on loads more dresses to affirm my position that no other white creation in the world could match up to the beautious Candy Anthony dress, and also, TBJ's "step-mum" (we don't refer to her as such out loud, but, to all intents and purposes, that's what she is) hasn't got any daughters of her own, and i thought she'd enjoy a girly experience as she's so lovely and positive. So, after some reasonable googling, i selected Leonie Claire as our destination.
My knowledge of bridal shops is hardly extensive, but if i were to recommend anywhere to another bride to be, i would start with this place - the staff bent over backwards to help, were friendly and positive (which i guess you have to be if you're trying to flog mega-expensive dresses) but it never felt forced. I was smitten! They had a really great selection too, so i got a chance to try on ones i loved, ones i thought i should have a crack at, one's i was intrigued about regardless of the reality of never wearing them in a million years, and also giant-my-big-fat-gypsy-wedding abominations, which i wore for the amusement of BFL (and you know what, i can totally understand the attraction! you feel like a bajillion dollars and like an absolute princess! a princess that looks like a bit of a twat admittedly, but it makes sense at the time).
We had a couple of disasters (which i've thankfully wiped from my memory - usually when i go out shopping it just takes one shocker to ruin the day for me, but amazingly i stayed on track this day!), one absolutely stunning left-field entry (which on reflection may have been down to magic mirrors, which i'm sure they have, but i was still outwardly stunned by how i looked in a slinky number) but a surprising number of contenders - 2 very serious, and 1 which i wasn't particularly bothered about, but when the people you're with get so over-excited on your behalf, you'd be remiss not to pay attention. I left there walking on air, having had such a lovely time, with encouraging and brilliant advice from my friends, and 2-3 options to mull over for a while.
One unexpected joy of the experience was getting to see other girls try their dresses on. and they look shit. they don't really - their friends and family are doing exactly the same coo-ing noises yours are doing and everyone means it, but the other people's viewers are poor misguided fools with no taste. What, you really like that dress?! it's made of crepe paper! are you sure? My taste is so much better than yours. which inherently makes me a better person, prettier, and with a better wedding. ha! take that, person i've never met. Thank christ i don't have tourettes. I really am a terrible person.
Enough of my personality disorder. Now, do you know how long it usually takes to get a wedding dress ordered and fitted? 6 months. How long do i really have until we get married? 4 months.
Knickers.
The lady at the shop actually called me to tell me to get my skates on, which was brilliant, but also a bugger. My mum was going on holiday for 3 weeks imminently, and with a very heavy workload, it was impossible for me to take the time off work during the week to get her opinion. so i was going to have to do this alone. But then my brilliant sister rearranged her plans (again!) to come with me, and BFL said she'd come with me again to make the final decision - IT WAS ON!!!!
Yesterday was D-Day, the shop was really busy, and we entered with a sense of trepidation and a little bit of a sicky-burp. My plan of attack was to try on a few other options, just to make sure, and then run through the shortlisted 3, from least favourite to most favourite, and gauge opinion. My sister works in Fashion, and i knew she'd have a strong eye for what worked best.
and she cried when i tried on the winner. so that was that.
i don't want to describe it here in case tbj reads this (unlikely, but that's how much i want it to be a secret!) but i am completely delighted with it, and tremendously in love. More money than i'd expected, but thanks to the Candy Anthony dress, i still feel like it's a bargain! On the way home i read about New Look bridal shoes, got home, loved a pair, and bought them for £25. It was meant to be!
The whole experience has been less painful than i thought it would be. The scope for non-meringue-ness is much greater than i'd anticipated, and to a degree, i feel naive and slightly arrogant for underestimating the bridal market. My dress is more traditional in some respects than i'd planned, but also still very different to what most people would wear. so i still get to feel pretentious and superior. Which is how i should feel on my wedding day. i don't want a day like yours. i want a day like mine (so having read on freecycle today that someone else is also reusing jars in their wedding decorations made me green with rage & envy, like a jealous Hulk, and if i meet this person, i will smash them over her head! anyhoo, i'm sure mine will look loads classier and that, and not like i'm trying to be all vintage like wot everyone else is doing cos i'm such an individual and unique snowflake blahblahblah).
thinking about it, it's a bit sad that that bit is over so quickly. i could have had months and months of titting about in dress shops. but my wedding is closer than i ever dreamed, and that's totally what counts *repeats until convinced*
Now, to lose a f*ck load of weight and look like a skinny supermodel...
Sunday, 10 April 2011
Wednesday, 30 March 2011
Progress!!!
well, that escalated quickly!!!
So, from the last slightly exasperated post, to now (tbj is complaining that i'm not updating regularly enough, and maybe he has a point!) things have moved on rather significantly -
Venue
Where did i leave off? the abortive Brighton trip? the enormo-argument about my "vision" for our wedding? well, we got over that reasonably smoothly and things seemed to settle down when i mentally settled for the Isle of Wight as our base. Being the pretentious arse that i am, i still tried to look for alternative venues on the island (your loss, Ryde Theatre!) but they weren't particularly forthcoming. So the job of finding somewhere a bit more normal was kind of done for me...
Things got pretty organised for a weekend of visiting - i've got good at phoning people (not at speaking, obv) and we had a full day of venue hunting with help from TBJ's mum. To say that she was helpful is an understatement. When all i could do was think about late licences and how pretty it was/wasn't, she seemed to ask all the very sensible questions :O)
Going into the weekend, i had a reasonably secure idea of my preferred option. and needless to say, as seems to be the way with wedding organising, i ended up loving one of the least-likely ones! The run down of the day -
Lakeside - one word: brown. brown in a very pretty setting with very competent staff, but brown never-the less.
Priory Bay - Crikey, the dude who showed us around was NOT a happy rabbit. it all just seemed to be a bit of a fuss for him, and we didn't come away with a good feeling about the place. which is a shame as the photos had lead us to believe it was a fairy tale option (not that i was bothered about that - i just thought it might do the job) but it just felt like it would be an almighty palaver. and the dining room was some awful rag-rolled pink wall of awfulness...
Appuldurcombe - when tbj said it was a shell, i thought he was exaggerating. but he wasn't. we'd have to supply our own floor! it was a thing of beauty though, but as i've said to quite a few people, it's only really possible to have a wedding there if i had a million pounds, and no job. and i have neither of those things. ah well. to be pragmatic too, it wasn't really a space to have relatives in either - it would have taken a lot of effort to make the place cosy, so that was a super-no to that one.
Hermitage - we'll come back to this one...
Royal - one of the most cherished hotels on the island, and don't you forget it! i very much felt like i was expected to consider it a privilege to have my reception there, when i've always assumed, when parting with significant amounts of cash, i should be made to feel the other way around. and frankly, it wasn't all that! unless your idea of all that is pretend old portraits on the walls of the dining room (i don't care if they're real, they were ugly and the experience upset me) and ming-worthy carpet *harrumphs*. On the plus side, the rooms were beautiful. but i'm not having my reception in a hotel room. silly people.
Ryde Castle - we only had a look around as we were staying there (the place has always intrigued me) and whilst it was impressive and i know people have had fabulous and happy weddings there, it just wasn't what was in our brains. Very snobby of us, but there you are.
We left the island with 2 options: Lakeside, and the Hermitage. Very different venues. Lakeside coudl fit everyone we've ever met and would be very professionally run. Hermitage however, was teensy (56 people including us) and would feel much more like a partnership endeavour (famous last words). the difference between the 2 wasn't money. it was atmosphere and experience. The Hermitage was cosy but also contemporary in places, and we got a feeling from the management that they'd do whatever they could to help us have an awesome day.
So, after checking with my Mum that she wouldn't mind if i didn't invite the large majority of my extended family, it was all systems go!!!!!! Hooray!!!! i said i'd have it sorted by the 1st April and i did!!!! so we just had to sort a date out....
13th August!!!!! MUTHA HUBBARDS!!!! it's this year! in less than 5 months!!!!!
The road to agreeing this date is fraught with drama, which i shall leave for next time (along with the accelerating dress hoopla), but i am so excited and super chuffed it's happening so quickly. We've had to mess a few people around in the proceedings, but everyone's been amazing. this is exactly what i wanted - getting on with life and enjoying the thrill while it's all still fresh. Just need to make everything bend to my will, which is entirely feasible!so much to do in such a short space of time, but it will be fine. we have an enforced break in a few weeks when we go on holiday for a fortnight (i'm not sure how i'm going to stay still for those 2 weeks...) but it's full steam ahead!!! An old work friend got engaged in September and doesn't get married til November. WHICH MEANS I WIN!!! YAY!!!!
So, from the last slightly exasperated post, to now (tbj is complaining that i'm not updating regularly enough, and maybe he has a point!) things have moved on rather significantly -
Venue
Where did i leave off? the abortive Brighton trip? the enormo-argument about my "vision" for our wedding? well, we got over that reasonably smoothly and things seemed to settle down when i mentally settled for the Isle of Wight as our base. Being the pretentious arse that i am, i still tried to look for alternative venues on the island (your loss, Ryde Theatre!) but they weren't particularly forthcoming. So the job of finding somewhere a bit more normal was kind of done for me...
Things got pretty organised for a weekend of visiting - i've got good at phoning people (not at speaking, obv) and we had a full day of venue hunting with help from TBJ's mum. To say that she was helpful is an understatement. When all i could do was think about late licences and how pretty it was/wasn't, she seemed to ask all the very sensible questions :O)
Going into the weekend, i had a reasonably secure idea of my preferred option. and needless to say, as seems to be the way with wedding organising, i ended up loving one of the least-likely ones! The run down of the day -
Lakeside - one word: brown. brown in a very pretty setting with very competent staff, but brown never-the less.
Priory Bay - Crikey, the dude who showed us around was NOT a happy rabbit. it all just seemed to be a bit of a fuss for him, and we didn't come away with a good feeling about the place. which is a shame as the photos had lead us to believe it was a fairy tale option (not that i was bothered about that - i just thought it might do the job) but it just felt like it would be an almighty palaver. and the dining room was some awful rag-rolled pink wall of awfulness...
Appuldurcombe - when tbj said it was a shell, i thought he was exaggerating. but he wasn't. we'd have to supply our own floor! it was a thing of beauty though, but as i've said to quite a few people, it's only really possible to have a wedding there if i had a million pounds, and no job. and i have neither of those things. ah well. to be pragmatic too, it wasn't really a space to have relatives in either - it would have taken a lot of effort to make the place cosy, so that was a super-no to that one.
Hermitage - we'll come back to this one...
Royal - one of the most cherished hotels on the island, and don't you forget it! i very much felt like i was expected to consider it a privilege to have my reception there, when i've always assumed, when parting with significant amounts of cash, i should be made to feel the other way around. and frankly, it wasn't all that! unless your idea of all that is pretend old portraits on the walls of the dining room (i don't care if they're real, they were ugly and the experience upset me) and ming-worthy carpet *harrumphs*. On the plus side, the rooms were beautiful. but i'm not having my reception in a hotel room. silly people.
Ryde Castle - we only had a look around as we were staying there (the place has always intrigued me) and whilst it was impressive and i know people have had fabulous and happy weddings there, it just wasn't what was in our brains. Very snobby of us, but there you are.
We left the island with 2 options: Lakeside, and the Hermitage. Very different venues. Lakeside coudl fit everyone we've ever met and would be very professionally run. Hermitage however, was teensy (56 people including us) and would feel much more like a partnership endeavour (famous last words). the difference between the 2 wasn't money. it was atmosphere and experience. The Hermitage was cosy but also contemporary in places, and we got a feeling from the management that they'd do whatever they could to help us have an awesome day.
So, after checking with my Mum that she wouldn't mind if i didn't invite the large majority of my extended family, it was all systems go!!!!!! Hooray!!!! i said i'd have it sorted by the 1st April and i did!!!! so we just had to sort a date out....
13th August!!!!! MUTHA HUBBARDS!!!! it's this year! in less than 5 months!!!!!
The road to agreeing this date is fraught with drama, which i shall leave for next time (along with the accelerating dress hoopla), but i am so excited and super chuffed it's happening so quickly. We've had to mess a few people around in the proceedings, but everyone's been amazing. this is exactly what i wanted - getting on with life and enjoying the thrill while it's all still fresh. Just need to make everything bend to my will, which is entirely feasible!so much to do in such a short space of time, but it will be fine. we have an enforced break in a few weeks when we go on holiday for a fortnight (i'm not sure how i'm going to stay still for those 2 weeks...) but it's full steam ahead!!! An old work friend got engaged in September and doesn't get married til November. WHICH MEANS I WIN!!! YAY!!!!
Saturday, 12 March 2011
Dress!!!!!!
clearly the most important thing :O)
went to the national wedding show with mum and sister a few weeks ago as it seemed like it might be fun, and i'd get to see everything all in one place. it was totally awful, in the way i was expecting - expectations at every corner (so when discussing a possible venue with someone, they said "oh, of course you'll have a discussion with your florist about ow to arrange the flowers for the day".... erm, no!), perma-tanned make up people (some woman we'd seen on Snog, Marry, Avoid was there flogging honeymoon stuff and POD had not been successful :O( ), some frankly hideous dresses and general over-the-top-ness - which was all completely fine.
watched a bit of the catwalk show, which made me cry! i think it was "oh balls, i have to wear one of those things" and also "hooray, i am part of this experience" which is a mixture of emotions guaranteed to confuse anyone's emotional system. some of the dresses were nice, but it really made me realise that the majority of dresses out there just aren't for me - i don't think i'll look good in them due to my shape, nor do i actually like them.
anyhoo, actually tried on 1 dress, which wasn't as terrible as it could have been, but did give me the heebie jeebies. i think it might actually have been because it didn't quite fit me, which is never good, but also i think i looked quite short in it. i'm 5'8", so shouldn't really have looked short, but the mirror was odd blahbalhbalh. but that kind of put the kibosh on that anyway.
the tl;dr version is - it was fun, but i didn't really get anything out of it.
The actual main part of the day, which was just added on as a "seeing as you're here" was going to Candy Anthony.
fuckfuckballsbugger and arse.
i think i've found my dress. i looked GREAT in it, and i never think i look great in anything. it was so pretty and completely me.
and it costs £3k.
i have spent the last few weeks either looking on her website at pictures of the dress, or talking to myself about how i really can justify spending that much on my dress. mum, sister and bff have all baulked at the cost, and then when i've asked them again, have said go for it, which sounds suspiciously like saying what i want to hear. it is a lot of money. but it's my only big day. tbj would say i should by 15 dresses with that money and have 15 slightly smaller, yet still exciting days with that money. and he'd be right. but also more wrong than captain mcwrong. this is why i have a mountain of credit card debt. money is to be spent people!!!
i'm really going to struggle to justify this to myself. but i might also just ignore myself and do it anyway, which very frequently happens. if i don't think about it, then i can just say at the end "oh, yeah, i got a bit carried away" and blame some mystical wedding-force. which i've actually already done for the venue thing as well.
i shall have to use the force wisely. i'm having a make over today, which i'm going to use as a trial run for a wedding look, so will think things through today and come back with an answer tomorrow |(i would lay money on it being - buy the dress, you deserve it - but what don't i deserve??!!)
went to the national wedding show with mum and sister a few weeks ago as it seemed like it might be fun, and i'd get to see everything all in one place. it was totally awful, in the way i was expecting - expectations at every corner (so when discussing a possible venue with someone, they said "oh, of course you'll have a discussion with your florist about ow to arrange the flowers for the day".... erm, no!), perma-tanned make up people (some woman we'd seen on Snog, Marry, Avoid was there flogging honeymoon stuff and POD had not been successful :O( ), some frankly hideous dresses and general over-the-top-ness - which was all completely fine.
watched a bit of the catwalk show, which made me cry! i think it was "oh balls, i have to wear one of those things" and also "hooray, i am part of this experience" which is a mixture of emotions guaranteed to confuse anyone's emotional system. some of the dresses were nice, but it really made me realise that the majority of dresses out there just aren't for me - i don't think i'll look good in them due to my shape, nor do i actually like them.
anyhoo, actually tried on 1 dress, which wasn't as terrible as it could have been, but did give me the heebie jeebies. i think it might actually have been because it didn't quite fit me, which is never good, but also i think i looked quite short in it. i'm 5'8", so shouldn't really have looked short, but the mirror was odd blahbalhbalh. but that kind of put the kibosh on that anyway.
the tl;dr version is - it was fun, but i didn't really get anything out of it.
The actual main part of the day, which was just added on as a "seeing as you're here" was going to Candy Anthony.
fuckfuckballsbugger and arse.
i think i've found my dress. i looked GREAT in it, and i never think i look great in anything. it was so pretty and completely me.
and it costs £3k.
i have spent the last few weeks either looking on her website at pictures of the dress, or talking to myself about how i really can justify spending that much on my dress. mum, sister and bff have all baulked at the cost, and then when i've asked them again, have said go for it, which sounds suspiciously like saying what i want to hear. it is a lot of money. but it's my only big day. tbj would say i should by 15 dresses with that money and have 15 slightly smaller, yet still exciting days with that money. and he'd be right. but also more wrong than captain mcwrong. this is why i have a mountain of credit card debt. money is to be spent people!!!
i'm really going to struggle to justify this to myself. but i might also just ignore myself and do it anyway, which very frequently happens. if i don't think about it, then i can just say at the end "oh, yeah, i got a bit carried away" and blame some mystical wedding-force. which i've actually already done for the venue thing as well.
i shall have to use the force wisely. i'm having a make over today, which i'm going to use as a trial run for a wedding look, so will think things through today and come back with an answer tomorrow |(i would lay money on it being - buy the dress, you deserve it - but what don't i deserve??!!)
Continued venue indecision
ok, so i'd told myself i wouldn't update until i had a venue - but it's been a month and i still haven't got there.
there's been some pretty big arguments about this so far - i think i got a bit swayed by all the wedding porn and lost track of the bigger wedding picture. there's still a part of me that really doesn't want hotel/country house wedding, as it's just so blah, but ultimately, finding somewhere that will accommodate people of all ages with ease is a good enough reason to compromise on aesthetics.
so, i've narrowed things down to definitely the IOW - london would be so totally awesome, but i think it would lead me up another selfish alley, and frankly, i can't be arsed trying to find a compromise venue that both tbj and i will like. it's been hard enough narrowing down the places on the IOW. it has been interesting, but it lost its' appeal relatively early on when it became apparent i couldn't find anything that really "fit".
the iow will be lovely as we have a better chance of nice weather, it should be reasonably green and pretty, which i think tbj has in mind. it's also a bit more of an event if we go away, so it's all good :O)
the shortlisted venues are nice enough - they don't go too far down the country house route, and look like they might have a modern edge, which is nice. i am hoping that on the day i'll just be happy with the pictures and have a good experience. we're going to visit them next weekend, so should have more news soon! i want to get this sorted (i.e. get a date!) for the 1st April. this is achievable!!!
there's been some pretty big arguments about this so far - i think i got a bit swayed by all the wedding porn and lost track of the bigger wedding picture. there's still a part of me that really doesn't want hotel/country house wedding, as it's just so blah, but ultimately, finding somewhere that will accommodate people of all ages with ease is a good enough reason to compromise on aesthetics.
so, i've narrowed things down to definitely the IOW - london would be so totally awesome, but i think it would lead me up another selfish alley, and frankly, i can't be arsed trying to find a compromise venue that both tbj and i will like. it's been hard enough narrowing down the places on the IOW. it has been interesting, but it lost its' appeal relatively early on when it became apparent i couldn't find anything that really "fit".
the iow will be lovely as we have a better chance of nice weather, it should be reasonably green and pretty, which i think tbj has in mind. it's also a bit more of an event if we go away, so it's all good :O)
the shortlisted venues are nice enough - they don't go too far down the country house route, and look like they might have a modern edge, which is nice. i am hoping that on the day i'll just be happy with the pictures and have a good experience. we're going to visit them next weekend, so should have more news soon! i want to get this sorted (i.e. get a date!) for the 1st April. this is achievable!!!
Friday, 11 February 2011
Venue indecision
So, tbj has basically said the finding of a venue is up to me. which is fine. i like titting about on the internet researching stuff, and i also like planning, so i was more than up for the challenge.
but it's soooooooooo hard!!!!!!!! *whines into oblivion*
I had an original plan, which was to stick with locations that mean something to us, and then find somewhere cool around there, but it's just not working....
Brighton - everything's super hotel-y, and whilst it's pretty, it's just not 'me'. the one place i did find, they didn't show up when i went to meet them, which doesn't fill me with confidence.
London - this is not exciting tbj. He wants somewhere with some green space. i tried suggestion London Zoo, but that didn't really fly. i couldn't care less about green space, but as this is really the only criteria he has, it would be mean and plain old disrespectful to not work with it.
Isle of Wight - i really thought faded seaside glamour would be plentiful, but it's either super old and run down, or updated and bland. There's nothing with character, and there's loads of country houses which do nothing for me.
argh!!!!
i know i'm being whiney, but it's very disheartening that nowhere seems to be even approaching right.
:O(
i'm being miserable, and what i need to do is figure out a way to fix this. positivity and adaptability!!!
but it's soooooooooo hard!!!!!!!! *whines into oblivion*
I had an original plan, which was to stick with locations that mean something to us, and then find somewhere cool around there, but it's just not working....
Brighton - everything's super hotel-y, and whilst it's pretty, it's just not 'me'. the one place i did find, they didn't show up when i went to meet them, which doesn't fill me with confidence.
London - this is not exciting tbj. He wants somewhere with some green space. i tried suggestion London Zoo, but that didn't really fly. i couldn't care less about green space, but as this is really the only criteria he has, it would be mean and plain old disrespectful to not work with it.
Isle of Wight - i really thought faded seaside glamour would be plentiful, but it's either super old and run down, or updated and bland. There's nothing with character, and there's loads of country houses which do nothing for me.
argh!!!!
i know i'm being whiney, but it's very disheartening that nowhere seems to be even approaching right.
:O(
i'm being miserable, and what i need to do is figure out a way to fix this. positivity and adaptability!!!
Tuesday, 25 January 2011
things i like!
ok, a bit early for blog post number 2, but when inspiration strikes!
cupcakes and pork pies! i have a plate in front of me with both on it! potential theme?
probably not. but let's try and find a way to crowbar them in. for a future thought on wedding food! not wedding foof, which i just typed. that's something different :O)
xxx
cupcakes and pork pies! i have a plate in front of me with both on it! potential theme?
probably not. but let's try and find a way to crowbar them in. for a future thought on wedding food! not wedding foof, which i just typed. that's something different :O)
xxx
Making a start...
just had a lovely night in our local pub, and am back at the flat reading wedding porn (i've written that as pron twice now, maybe i should just go with it) and watching the football. well, i couldn't give a monkey's about the football, but it's on.
i am a touch tipsy.
this should hopefully serve as a record of my wedding plans and thoughts. hooray!
topics for future consideration, based on initial observations of the wedding landscape -
- engagement photoshoots - seriously?! to what purpose and wft?! i wish i didn't feel quite so hate-filled when i see them (jealousy that tbj (my hub to be) wouldn't ever go near them? maybe...) but it feels just a bit too much like eeking out what has already been determined as a reasonably self-obsessed occasion...
- original thought - just when you think you have an idea which is all your own and borne from singular inspiration, some git has posted a blog post about their wedding with the exact same thing or superior version of. why has someone else thought of school-playground-triangular-play-paper-thing?!?! i was inspired by Community, and now i am sad that someone had that thought before me. i feel this is something i may have to get used to...
- being trendy - so i got engaged just before xmas. are any/all/some/none of my plans going to be usurped by kate middleton? seems churlish and slightly arrogant that we might even be on the same wedding page, but i don't want to look like a copy cat!
- being a big tit - why am i worried about the above? i'm an older bride (well, 30 seems the right age in london, but i'm aware i have flabby booze-related arms. experience arms. life arms) so shouldn't i be above this nonsense? or should i consider it part of the experience? embrace the bridezilla?
- BEING DULL - that wasn't meant to be in capitals, but seems somewhat apt. i have found it almost impossible to converse about anything apart from my wedding since the proposal. i am simultaneously super excited and annoyed with myself. numpty. but people seem to want to ask me. or does that mean they have nothing else to say to me? who's fault is it?! huh?! answer me!!!!!
- general hilarity from tbj - "who are you getting married to?", "oh, is someone getting married?", "what's that all about then?" - not sounding like and all-consumed arse, yet not wanting to punch your other half - how to manage that? that is a question.
- a church when you're not religious. convincing yourself it's ok (which it is).
ok, that's probably enough to be getting on with. bugger me, if that's less than a month after "we" got engaged (because honestly, it's my show from now on, but the veneer of him giving a toss must be maintained) lord alone knows what hilarity awaits.
hooray for marriage and weddings!!
xxx
i am a touch tipsy.
this should hopefully serve as a record of my wedding plans and thoughts. hooray!
topics for future consideration, based on initial observations of the wedding landscape -
- engagement photoshoots - seriously?! to what purpose and wft?! i wish i didn't feel quite so hate-filled when i see them (jealousy that tbj (my hub to be) wouldn't ever go near them? maybe...) but it feels just a bit too much like eeking out what has already been determined as a reasonably self-obsessed occasion...
- original thought - just when you think you have an idea which is all your own and borne from singular inspiration, some git has posted a blog post about their wedding with the exact same thing or superior version of. why has someone else thought of school-playground-triangular-play-paper-thing?!?! i was inspired by Community, and now i am sad that someone had that thought before me. i feel this is something i may have to get used to...
- being trendy - so i got engaged just before xmas. are any/all/some/none of my plans going to be usurped by kate middleton? seems churlish and slightly arrogant that we might even be on the same wedding page, but i don't want to look like a copy cat!
- being a big tit - why am i worried about the above? i'm an older bride (well, 30 seems the right age in london, but i'm aware i have flabby booze-related arms. experience arms. life arms) so shouldn't i be above this nonsense? or should i consider it part of the experience? embrace the bridezilla?
- BEING DULL - that wasn't meant to be in capitals, but seems somewhat apt. i have found it almost impossible to converse about anything apart from my wedding since the proposal. i am simultaneously super excited and annoyed with myself. numpty. but people seem to want to ask me. or does that mean they have nothing else to say to me? who's fault is it?! huh?! answer me!!!!!
- general hilarity from tbj - "who are you getting married to?", "oh, is someone getting married?", "what's that all about then?" - not sounding like and all-consumed arse, yet not wanting to punch your other half - how to manage that? that is a question.
- a church when you're not religious. convincing yourself it's ok (which it is).
ok, that's probably enough to be getting on with. bugger me, if that's less than a month after "we" got engaged (because honestly, it's my show from now on, but the veneer of him giving a toss must be maintained) lord alone knows what hilarity awaits.
hooray for marriage and weddings!!
xxx
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